Before Marpa House…

Before Marpa House…

The history of our building and grounds before it became Marpa House

Marpa House/Kham Tibetan House has a fascinating history, long before its current incarnation as the first Tibetan Buddhist Retreat centre in England.

Rinpoche was assisted in its initial founding and search for a suitable property by several kind students before what was then called ‘All Saints’ Home’ emerged as a potential location for Rinpoche’s centre.

The property was built in 1890 and has a very positive history, both in the building and the gardens, as ‘All Saints’ Home’ was a refuge for homeless children (mainly from London) for 83 years, from its inception by Dr Henry Swete. In fact, ‘Rectory Lane’ is still known by some locals as ‘Home Boys Lane’.

In the late nineteenth century, Dr Henry Swete, as the Lord of Ashdon Rectory Manor, was a very influential figure. He decided to provide a thatched cottage rent-free to the ‘Church of England Society for Providing Homes for Waifs and Strays’. At that time, many orphans were surviving on the streets in the big cities of England, notably in London.

Dr Swete paid half the cost of furnishing that cottage (now a private home). In 1885, the first group of boys arrived from London.  At first, there were six children; then, three more followed quickly to fill the house. Each boy had a mall garden and attended the village school.

The original cottage, however, was in poor condition; so Dr Swete soon decided to build a new house for 12 children close to his Rectory and on land rented from Gonville and Caius College, Cambridge. The new Home was opened on St Michael and All Angels’ Day in 1890 (29th September). After a service at the parish church, the clergy and congregation formed a procession led by a cross-bearer. They made their way to the Home, where Swete conducted a Benediction Service (a type of blessing).

A local committee ran All Saints’ Home, and one of the most prominent early members of the committee was Mrs Brocklebank of Bartlow Hall. Bartlow is a village close by.

The first matron was Annie Wallis; her successor was Ellen Whitehead, who became matron in 1895 and remained in the position for 37 years, playing a significant part in the home’s history.

Problems with the water supply meant that the Home depended upon a nearby well. When this ran dry, water had to be carried up the steep hill from the village. This continued for 48 years, until a mains supply was eventually installed in 1938, the same year that the house was extended to accommodate more boys. The Home closed in 1961 for renovations and didn’t reopen until 1964. It finally closed in 1972.

From its dedication in 1890 until 1972, the house served as a refuge for boys aged 8 to 13. They came from diverse cultural backgrounds, and a few of the former residents have returned to revisit the house and grounds.

Further visits by original residents are welcome by appointment. Please get in touch with the Secretary at mail@marpahouse.org.uk

Paintings on the wall

Around the walls of the original playroom in All Saints’ Home were hand-painted murals of local animals and people. Having been decorated over, they were lost for years.  However, they were uncovered during renovations and redecoration of the shrine room at Marpa House, and some of the beautiful and unique paintings are shown here.

There is a small boy riding on a very large and striking horse called ‘Punch’, a man walking a harnessed working horse, and two pictures of dogs – one a domestic dog, and the other a hound.

All photographs are by courtesy of the late Mr. John Double, resident of Ashdon, and a former member of the All Saints’ Home committee.

Marpa House Retreat Fund Scheme

Marpa House Retreat Fund Scheme

Making Retreat Possible for Everyone

We want to help secure the centre’s future as a place of practice and spiritual growth accessible to everyone.

Retreat at Marpa House is a wonderful experience – an opportunity to settle the mind and deepen our spiritual practice. It is not easy for everyone to finance a retreat, and we are very keen that money should not be an obstacle to undertaking a retreat at Marpa House.

To help people undertake retreat, the trustees have launched a Marpa House Retreat Fund Scheme, which will pay the retreat fees of those suffering financial hardship or on very low incomes.

Anyone who wants to sponsor others to undertake a retreat is very welcome to donate to the funds available for the retreat scheme. If you wish to donate to the scheme, please contact trustees@marpahouse.org.uk

Funds from the scheme can be used to pay for either full or semi-retreat days. People are very welcome to pay for part of their retreat using scheme funds and the rest from their own funds. All information provided in applications will be treated confidentially. Each successful applicant will be entitled to a maximum of 7 retreat days, paid for by the scheme.

To be eligible for the scheme, you must be able to demonstrate that you satisfy one of the following criteria:

  • You are in financial circumstances, meaning it would be unreasonable to pay to do a retreat at Marpa House
  • You are a full-time student
  • You receive means-tested benefits
  • You are volunteering as long-term staff at Marpa House.

The Scheme will allocate 50 full retreat days per year, marking our recent 50th anniversary celebrations. Applications can be made only during two application windows each twelve-month period.  Application windows will be announced on this website, via Facebook, and in our e-letter.

All applications will be determined on a strictly first-come, first-served basis; however, the Marpa House trustees reserve the right to grant a different number of retreat days than those applied for.

The Fullness of Emptiness 

The Fullness of Emptiness 

Emptiness is such a key word in Buddhist teachings (especially in the Heart Sutra, [“form is empty, yet emptiness has no form”]) and yet, so often when it is mentioned we are also told that it is not void at all but has very important positive aspects. How can we understand that?

To me, the key point seems to be that there is something beyond the phenomena we can perceive with our ordinary sense perceptions, and that – when we settle our mind in stillness – we have the chance of being aware of something quite wonderful, something that is very uplifting but also very difficult to describe with the words we have at our disposal. It is not surprising therefore that quite a number of different terms are used in this context; “unborn clear light”, “luminosity”, “primordial essence”, “innate supreme essence”, “vivid awareness” and “Buddha-nature” all seem to point in the same direction.

So why is it called “emptiness”? Nagarjuna (c. 200 CE) is credited with transforming the sutras’ poetic and sometimes paradoxical declarations on emptiness (“form is emptiness and emptiness is form”) into a philosophical system.

When he uses the word “emptiness” it is not to refer to the absence of existence but to the absence of intrinsic existence and, by implication, to the true or ultimate nature of reality. He stated this primarily to refute the idea – especially held by followers of the Sarvastivada School – that phenomena, the things we can perceive with our ordinary senses, have an intrinsic existence.

This was further amplified by Vasubandhu (around 400 CE), of the Yogachara school, who equated Buddha-nature with both emptiness and nirvana.

There are also some fascinating references to the ultimate nature of reality in the Upanishads, which I find very uplifting. (The terms used here are: the Spirit, the Essence, the Truth, God and – in the personified form – Brahman).

As Buddhists we may shy away from reading these Hindu scriptures, but it is worth remembering that these writings contain the distilled wisdom of thousands of years and essentially reflect the cultural/spiritual background the Buddha was born into. The Svetasvatara Upanishad in particular was written down about the time of the Buddha and contains some striking parallels to the Heart Sutra (“When ignorance is dispelled, there is neither day nor night, neither being nor non-being.”).

Here is a very short excerpt: “The Essence is in everything, from the smallest to the largest. The Spirit’s infinity is beyond what is great or small and its radiance illumines all creation. It is beyond form and beyond pain, and those who have seen the Truth of the Spirit are one with it, their life is fulfilled, and they are ever beyond sorrow.” (Quoted from a translation by Juan Mascaró, 1965).

Hartwin Busch © 2024

Celebrating Losar 2025

Celebrating Losar 2025

Losar Tashi Delek!

The Saturday celebration was a chance for those of us who hadn’t been at Marpa House during the week to celebrate the new year. A week of Mahakala pujas & torma making culminating in the year of the wood snake on Friday, February 28th.

The house was humming with welcoming, flowers, plating & arranging offerings. Hasty greetings, hasty cups of tea. Kataks were placed thoughtfully by the shrine room door.

Once in the shrine room, we presented our kataks with Lama Alastair standing by. Rinpoche’s beautiful New Year’s poem had touched all our hearts and ‘Calling the lama from afar’ was truly heartfelt. It was such a happy occasion to be singing alongside friends, and apparently, from the depths of the kitchen, it had sounded particularly harmonious. A short meditation, prayers for Rinpoche’s long life and good health, then dedications. We were reminded of the preparations leading up to this occasion and thanks followed to all who had worked so hard to make the week possible. Thanks especially to Lama Alasdair for his calm presence as always & for sharing his knowledge & skills so patiently.

Lama Alasdair ran through what the new year represented – a fresh start, a clean slate. The past is gone, and we can’t do anything about it, but we can do something about the future. Let go of any new mistakes. The bonfire ritual was explained with grains of rice representing negativity which we then throw on the fire with the words Ki Ki So So Lha Gyalo! preceded by three long ohh.. ahh..ohhs.

Waiting around the well-behaved bonfire, there was a slight pause and we became aware of our grains of negativity beginning to burn holes in our hands. We duly chanted, threw our rice and watched the bonfire burn. In the spring sunshine a short speech to wish Myrto well as she returns to live in Greece. Then the thought of tea and time to head back to the house for a brilliant feast. The fire then beckoned us back so tea round the bonfire it was.

Time to sit in the sun with the snowdrops – memories of Tenzin – chat & catch up. We talked, laughed, relaxed and had fun. We missed the people who used to be here and watched the fire slowly burn. We saw animal shapes in the glowing embers. As the fire turned a deep shade of orange, the embers blackened, and the ash turned white. When the sun went down, it suddenly got cold. Back to the house and home. Hugs, kisses, thank yous & goodbyes. A sneaky bit more cake then more waves and goodbyes.

In the breath of an afternoon, cobwebs had been blown away, spirits lifted, and purpose strengthened. We felt happy, positive & lighter. As we left, a spectacularly red sunset glowed right across the sky, the colour reminiscent of a Tibetan robe.

Susan Mumford © 2025

Memories of Ato Rinpoche

Memories of Ato Rinpoche

Ato Rinpoche | 1933 – 2024

“Be kind. Just be kind.” Those were Ato Rinpoche’s simple but profound words when I asked him, many years ago, how to stay patient while living with a severely autistic stepson. I had expected some profound teaching, perhaps about transforming obstacles into the path. But as was often the case, Rinpoche gave the answer I needed to hear, rather than the one I wanted to hear.

It was similar when I asked him (with starry eyes), in one of my first meetings with him, about the value of doing a three-year retreat. Rinpoche smiled his usual twinkly smile and said simply: “Three-year retreat is easy. The difficult thing is practising every day, for your whole life.” Again, he had ignored my expectations and given an answer whose truth and profundity I am still now slowly understanding.

What were some of Ato Rinpoche’s qualities? A radiant, loving presence, and a deep and genuine humility and simplicity masking his deep realisation. Plus the ability to drag us away from our fantasies about high empowerments and pointing out instructions, and back to the practical, nitty-gritty of trying to live the teachings every day. Which, of course, was what he did.

Many of us heard him teach on the Noble Eightfold Path countless times. Whether it was this teaching, or commenting on songs of Milarepa, Rinpoche always kept his focus practical and down-to-earth. With his trademark grin, he would remind us again and again, “Nobody’s perfect, but it’s worth a try.” And “Go along with it, keep it going.” Perhaps the closest he came to publicly pointing out the nature of the mind was his occasional instruction to “Mind the gap!” Always with the grin and the twinkle.

Rinpoche, like his cousin Chime Rinpoche, knew that most of us didn’t belong in a cave, a three-year retreat, or monastic robes. He knew most of us needed to keep our focus on practising within a family and working environment right now. When I recently mentioned wanting to do more retreat, he immediately said “Yes, but don’t push it. It is much more important to recognise our nature for short moments as often as we can, every day.”

Rinpoche’s humility was amazing and genuine. At the end of a teaching in Germany in 1998, he told us to take from his teaching anything that seemed valid and useful for us but to leave anything else behind in the shrine-room. He added, smiling, “The masters of my lineage have always been extremely patient and tolerant of my rubbish, so you can leave it here with them.”

Another time, I was attending a course in Pullahari Monastery near Kathmandu. Pullahari is the monastery of Jamgon Kongtrul Rinpoche. Ato Rinpoche’s root guru was the second Jamgon Kongtrul, Khyentse Ozer. So while Rinpoche was visiting Kathmandu, he came up to Pullahari, alone, unannounced, wearing ordinary clothes, and walked into the monastery stupa temple to pay his respects and circumambulate the stupa of the third Jamgon Kongtrul incarnation, who had passed away a few years earlier. The only thing was, he walked in right in the middle of the morning teachings which were being given by Drupon Khenpo Lodro Namgyal, a very special lama himself. The moment he walked in, Drupon Khenpo stopped teaching and jumped off his seat, remaining frozen until Rinpoche left a minute later. Rinpoche could come as quietly and incognito as he liked, but the lamas knew exactly what level of being they were dealing with.

Such was Rinpoche’s humility, he seemed to even feel that praising his own guru publicly would be a sign of pride. During teachings at Marpa House one time, I asked Rinpoche to tell us a little about his guru’s qualities. He totally deflected the question, saying that it is impossible to see the qualities of a master, before moving on immediately.

It is said in the teachings, that when a Bodhisattva reaches a certain level, they become “like an eight-month pregnant woman” – no longer able to conceal the qualities that their realisation gives birth to. Ato Rinpoche was like that. He may have tried his best to seem ordinary, but the trouble was, he was extraordinarily ordinary! So we weren’t fooled – sorry Rinpoche!

“Be kind. Just be kind.” Rinpoche, you made it sound so simple. I guess it was, for you (though you would never admit it). When somebody totally embodies kindness with their whole being, such words can have a profound impact on those who hear them. I didn’t really get the transmission, but that’s on me, not the lama. For those of us who still need it, may your inspiration constantly remind us to “keep it going.” Yes, every day. For our whole life. Thank you, Rinpoche. Thank you.

Jon Armour © 2024